Comments on: Nice Guys® have a champion for their cause http://pandagon.blogsome.com/2008/02/08/6705/ Just another WordPress weblog Sun, 08 Nov 2009 13:43:56 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=1.5.1-alpha by: Jake http://pandagon.blogsome.com/2008/02/08/6705/#comment-512318 Tue, 29 Apr 2008 15:11:30 +0100 http://pandagon.blogsome.com/2008/02/08/6705/#comment-512318 Even from just the point of view of the man in this situation, this author's proposal is horrific. I would always chose to be alone over being married to someone who is simply tolerating my embrace. Marriage (or any life-long committed relationship) is suppose to be about affection, not convenience and the structure for a stable family dynamic to allow children. If an individual desires this, move in with your best friend and have/adopt a child and then you won't have to worry about settling at all. I'm shocked that this was published, the male equivalent, "Marry for Looks/Sex," never, would have. Even from just the point of view of the man in this situation, this author’s proposal is horrific. I would always chose to be alone over being married to someone who is simply tolerating my embrace. Marriage (or any life-long committed relationship) is suppose to be about affection, not convenience and the structure for a stable family dynamic to allow children. If an individual desires this, move in with your best friend and have/adopt a child and then you won’t have to worry about settling at all.

I’m shocked that this was published, the male equivalent, “Marry for Looks/Sex,” never, would have.

]]> by: Ren http://pandagon.blogsome.com/2008/02/08/6705/#comment-490938 Thu, 14 Feb 2008 02:35:18 +0000 http://pandagon.blogsome.com/2008/02/08/6705/#comment-490938 Thank you so much for posting this. I read this article originally as a link from (of all things) the Atlantic, and it made me so angry I wanted to kick my computer out the window. What the hell is such an obviously desperate, not-funny article doing in a place where normally considerate, well-written articles go? I think my inner editor was angrier, honestly, outdoing my inner feminist, who couldn't be bothered to email this woman and tell her to crawl out of her own little headspace and think for a second. But apparently a magazine I respect immensely couldn't be bothered to respect me back, and decided that this trash'n'drivel was worth my attention and time. Thank you so much for posting this. I read this article originally as a link from (of all things) the Atlantic, and it made me so angry I wanted to kick my computer out the window. What the hell is such an obviously desperate, not-funny article doing in a place where normally considerate, well-written articles go?

I think my inner editor was angrier, honestly, outdoing my inner feminist, who couldn’t be bothered to email this woman and tell her to crawl out of her own little headspace and think for a second.

But apparently a magazine I respect immensely couldn’t be bothered to respect me back, and decided that this trash’n'drivel was worth my attention and time.

]]> by: Ren http://pandagon.blogsome.com/2008/02/08/6705/#comment-490937 Thu, 14 Feb 2008 02:31:34 +0000 http://pandagon.blogsome.com/2008/02/08/6705/#comment-490937 Thank you so much for posting this. I read this article originally as a link from (of all things) the Atlantic, and it made me so angry I wanted to kick my computer out the window. What the hell is such an obviously desperate, not-funny article doing in a place where normally considerate, well-written articles go? I think my inner editor was angrier, honestly, outdoing my inner feminist, who couldn't be bothered to email this woman and tell her to crawl out of her own little headspace and think for a second. But apparently a magazine I respect immensely couldn't be bothered to respect me back, and decided that this trash'n'drivel was worth my attention and time. Thank you so much for posting this. I read this article originally as a link from (of all things) the Atlantic, and it made me so angry I wanted to kick my computer out the window. What the hell is such an obviously desperate, not-funny article doing in a place where normally considerate, well-written articles go?

I think my inner editor was angrier, honestly, outdoing my inner feminist, who couldn’t be bothered to email this woman and tell her to crawl out of her own little headspace and think for a second.

But apparently a magazine I respect immensely couldn’t be bothered to respect me back, and decided that this trash’n'drivel was worth my attention and time.

]]> by: Ren http://pandagon.blogsome.com/2008/02/08/6705/#comment-490936 Thu, 14 Feb 2008 02:30:47 +0000 http://pandagon.blogsome.com/2008/02/08/6705/#comment-490936 Thank you so much for posting this. I read this article originally as a link from (of all things) the Atlantic, and it made me so angry I wanted to kick my computer out the window. What the hell is such an obviously desperate, not-funny article doing in a place where normally considerate, well-written articles go? I think my inner editor was angrier, honestly, outdoing my inner feminist, who couldn't be bothered to email this woman and tell her to crawl out of her own little headspace and think for a second. But apparently a magazine I respect immensely couldn't be bothered to respect me back, and decided that this trash'n'drivel was worth my attention and time. Thank you so much for posting this. I read this article originally as a link from (of all things) the Atlantic, and it made me so angry I wanted to kick my computer out the window. What the hell is such an obviously desperate, not-funny article doing in a place where normally considerate, well-written articles go?

I think my inner editor was angrier, honestly, outdoing my inner feminist, who couldn’t be bothered to email this woman and tell her to crawl out of her own little headspace and think for a second.

But apparently a magazine I respect immensely couldn’t be bothered to respect me back, and decided that this trash’n'drivel was worth my attention and time.

]]> by: Ren http://pandagon.blogsome.com/2008/02/08/6705/#comment-490935 Thu, 14 Feb 2008 02:29:21 +0000 http://pandagon.blogsome.com/2008/02/08/6705/#comment-490935 Thank you so much for posting this. I read this article originally as a link from (of all things) the Atlantic, and it made me so angry I wanted to kick my computer out the window. What the hell is such an obviously desperate, not-funny article doing in a place where normally considerate, well-written articles go? I think my inner editor was angrier, honestly, outdoing my inner feminist, who couldn't be bothered to email this woman and tell her to crawl out of her own little headspace and think for a second. But apparently a magazine I respect immensely couldn't be bothered to respect me back, and decided that this trash'n'drivel was worth my attention and time. Thank you so much for posting this. I read this article originally as a link from (of all things) the Atlantic, and it made me so angry I wanted to kick my computer out the window. What the hell is such an obviously desperate, not-funny article doing in a place where normally considerate, well-written articles go?

I think my inner editor was angrier, honestly, outdoing my inner feminist, who couldn’t be bothered to email this woman and tell her to crawl out of her own little headspace and think for a second.

But apparently a magazine I respect immensely couldn’t be bothered to respect me back, and decided that this trash’n'drivel was worth my attention and time.

]]> by: Ren http://pandagon.blogsome.com/2008/02/08/6705/#comment-490933 Thu, 14 Feb 2008 02:21:03 +0000 http://pandagon.blogsome.com/2008/02/08/6705/#comment-490933 Thank you so much for posting this. I read this article originally as a link from (of all things) the Atlantic, and it made me so angry I wanted to kick my computer out the window. What the hell is such an obviously desperate, not-funny article doing in a place where normally considerate, well-written articles go? I think my inner editor was angrier, honestly, outdoing my inner feminist, who couldn't be bothered to email this woman and tell her to crawl out of her own little headspace and think for a second. But apparently a magazine I respect immensely couldn't be bothered to respect me back, and decided that this trash'n'drivel was worth my attention and time. Thank you so much for posting this. I read this article originally as a link from (of all things) the Atlantic, and it made me so angry I wanted to kick my computer out the window. What the hell is such an obviously desperate, not-funny article doing in a place where normally considerate, well-written articles go?

I think my inner editor was angrier, honestly, outdoing my inner feminist, who couldn’t be bothered to email this woman and tell her to crawl out of her own little headspace and think for a second.

But apparently a magazine I respect immensely couldn’t be bothered to respect me back, and decided that this trash’n'drivel was worth my attention and time.

]]> by: Pope Lizbet http://pandagon.blogsome.com/2008/02/08/6705/#comment-490308 Tue, 12 Feb 2008 12:49:02 +0000 http://pandagon.blogsome.com/2008/02/08/6705/#comment-490308 @ Rebecca, Mad Gastronomer 238: Ditto and ditto. @ the article, cats, and nonsense: "My cat is smarter than the man you settled for" about sums it up for me.. @ Rebecca, Mad Gastronomer 238:
Ditto and ditto.

@ the article, cats, and nonsense:
“My cat is smarter than the man you settled for” about sums it up for me..

]]> by: preying mantis http://pandagon.blogsome.com/2008/02/08/6705/#comment-490229 Tue, 12 Feb 2008 10:02:30 +0000 http://pandagon.blogsome.com/2008/02/08/6705/#comment-490229 "It just pisses me off no end the way some people assume that “abortion is for careless or stupid or uncaring people”." For some people it's probably a defense mechanism. They're conscientious, so they'll never need that abortion they might not be able to get, or might not be able to afford. They're careful, so they'll never have to face a gauntlet of screaming lunatics, some of whom may be taking pictures of them or their license plate, or worry about their medical file winding up in the hands of an unscrupulous zealot of a DA. They'll never be forced to have a pointless transvaginal ultrasound they don't want just to end a pregnancy they can't handle. It's counterproductive and, in a lot of cases, toxic, but not entirely irrational if the people voicing those opinions are aware of the fucked up methodology anti-choice nutjobs and legislators employ. “It just pisses me off no end the way some people assume that “abortion is for careless or stupid or uncaring people”.”

For some people it’s probably a defense mechanism. They’re conscientious, so they’ll never need that abortion they might not be able to get, or might not be able to afford. They’re careful, so they’ll never have to face a gauntlet of screaming lunatics, some of whom may be taking pictures of them or their license plate, or worry about their medical file winding up in the hands of an unscrupulous zealot of a DA. They’ll never be forced to have a pointless transvaginal ultrasound they don’t want just to end a pregnancy they can’t handle.

It’s counterproductive and, in a lot of cases, toxic, but not entirely irrational if the people voicing those opinions are aware of the fucked up methodology anti-choice nutjobs and legislators employ.

]]> by: kac90b http://pandagon.blogsome.com/2008/02/08/6705/#comment-490218 Tue, 12 Feb 2008 08:49:32 +0000 http://pandagon.blogsome.com/2008/02/08/6705/#comment-490218 Thanks, Cassie. :) One doesn't get much support if one doesn't hang her head at the "shame" of it all. Thanks, Cassie. :) One doesn’t get much support if one doesn’t hang her head at the “shame” of it all.

]]> by: Arun http://pandagon.blogsome.com/2008/02/08/6705/#comment-490203 Tue, 12 Feb 2008 06:32:27 +0000 http://pandagon.blogsome.com/2008/02/08/6705/#comment-490203 http://capitalistimperialistpig.blogspot.com/2008/02/settling.html http://capitalistimperialistpig.blogspot.com/2008/02/settling.html

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