Posted by Sheelzebub August 7, 2007 in Uncategorized
Dear future dates/boyfriends:
If I find out that you blog about the women you go out with in intimate detail, I’ll likely give you a pass. Not my style.
If you read my blog hoping for mentions of you, you’re gonna be disappointed. I just don’t do that sort of thing. And I don’t think I’d want someone who’d get off on being the star of my blog, anyway. I’m the star of my blog, dammit.
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i’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year, we live together, and he still doesn’t read my blog, it’s too close to home, it’s where i post about my feelings, and sometimes those feelings aren’t great, and sometimes i don’t want to talk to him about every shitty feeling, i just want to type it out.
i have to say, i respect the guy who wrote the article for at least being honest and admitting to her he found her blog and was reading it. he could have been a real sleaze bag and lied, then used the things she said to trick and manipulate her.
So, does this mean that you would not date any of those guys whose pictures you post on Tuesdays?
I’m just glad that the blogging woman whom I did date for two years has moved on, gotten married and divorced, and is now obsessed with things other than I. She just finally got rid of the pictures she had of me on her blog last year. Ten years later.
I was afraid I was going to be confronted by my daughter one day asking me about why I was posing on the hood of an Oldsmobile Omega with peeling hood paint in nothing but a football jersey and speedos.
I read this article as thinly veiled fiction.
Especially the oh-so-Annie Hall ending.
What if the profile of kiltfetishes.org is publicly viewable?
I used to be that Angie person, but I never talked about “naked things”! I don’t necessarily regret it but once I met someone that I really loved and eventually married, suddenly it became a lot less fun to talk about the kooky things from my current relationship and I ended the blog. Funny how that happens!
Haha. I’ve blogged about dating before.
In her book I’m Not the New Me, Wendy McClure talks about dating a guy who was one of the readers of her blog. Turned out that he had a hard time dealing with the real her and not his idealized fantasy of what the woman writing that blog would be like.
Otherwise, this sounds like the dilemma that all writers’ loved ones share: what do you do if the person writes about you, especially if they write about you in an unflattering way? Apparently, Steve Jobs stopped speaking to his sister, Mona Charen, after she had a character very much like him in one of the novels that she wrote after they met. (Their parents put him up for adoption but were in a better situation when Mona came along and were able to raise her, so the two siblings never met until they were adults.)
I thought that was a pretty honest article actually. I haven’t had that experience precisely, but I have maintained a blog, and dated a blogger, and they do change circumstances somewhat.
It’s not that I thought the article was dishonest, it just read like a treatment for an episode of Sex and the City. Ohnoes! My new girlfriend haz a
cormblogz. Welcome to the 21st century, dude.Not to mention that it read like the blog version of everyone’s fantasy about dating a musician or writer or artist, and being their muse.
Though I’ll say that I once wrote in my blog about realizing I was in love with someone, and how I couldn’t tell him because I knew it was completely unrequited, that I was just a fling to him. And he read it. And handled it just right.
Ouch. If I ever do read about myself in a blog, I hope the writing is a bit less cringe-inducing.
Speaking of which, it is Tuesday, isn’t it?
I have too, but only in the abstract and on the theoretical level. For instance, I once had a date with a guy with $$$$. I blogged about the date ahead of time because I was trying to think through the issues involved in cross-class dating. However, there was no identification of the person (and it was our only date–just didn’t click).
I came up with an easy solution to the issue, though…I quite blogging.
quite=quit
but please gimme a break, had to teach a class tonight. I don’t need to be coherent once I’ve let the students go.
I’ve blogged about people I’ve dated, actually - but they were people I dated decades ago. And one of them is long dead, so I doubt he objects to his portrayal on the blog.
Lynn,
The downside of this is that if he does object, he’ll be communicating his displeasure in some creepy Night Gallery manner.
Back in the day (when my blog used to be hella interesting) I used to write about my dating and “dating” exploits in great detail (guess that explains why it was interesting). However I never blogged about anything my partner didn’t agree to. Now? Not so much. Mainly because there are no exploits to speak of (and I guess that explains why my blog is boring now), but as I get older the more I want to keep to myself. I don’t like the idea of the blog replacing communication that should be happening personally. There were a couple times when the guy I was dating would be like, “I read your blog today…” and that’s really no way to start a conversation about the relationship. Really.